It’s always hard to deal with loss whether it’s from a death or just physical separation. As a child, I dealt with a lot of loss through death. Also, along the way a lot of people have come and gone (but are still alive). I think that people have a time and place in our lives. Some may be around for many, many years while others may be there for just a short time. Everyone has their purpose and you probably have a lesson to learn from your experience with them whether it be positive or negative. It’s not always a bad thing that you lost touch with certain people.
Look at your current relationships. Are they healthy relationships? Do you have someone that calls you only when they want something? I know I do. So your challenge (and mine) is to look at the people you surround yourself with. Are you being lifted up or brought down by them? What can you (and I) do about negative people? Be less available? Confront them? How can you surround yourself with more positive people?
There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative. ~W. Clement Stone
I’m sure I’ve posted on happiness before. It’s something I often talk about with those I know well. I saw a quote posted on facebook today that really got me to thinking. “If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you.” –Sister Mary Tricky.
This is another simple quote that I’m sure that I’ve read before but it really struck me today. It struck me so much that it’s now plastered on the wall in my office. We all choose how we feel every day. We choose how we react to situations whether they are good or bad or even sad. It’s so easy to blame someone else or life’s circumstances and let those things get us angry and depressed. I want to be mindful that I can make the choice to be happy no matter what goes on around me. I hope that you’ll be mindful with me. Choose happiness!
…often go awry. I’m pretty sure this quote is from the John Steinbeck novel. Correct me if I’m wrong.
It’s great to have a plan. I like lists and *try* to plan out my days each day. Often things pop up that I didn’t plan for and throw my schedule off course. It’s so easy to let those things throw you off course along with your schedule/plan. Make a plan; try to stick with it as much as possible, but be flexible when the inevitable arises. Because it WILL arise. Flexibility is one of the key ingredients of a good leader/manager. And don’t we all want to be good leaders and managers of our own lives?
Well it’s time to get back to work. I’ve got a busy day ahead. I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes. Enjoy your day!
My advice to you is not to inquire why or whither, but just enjoy your ice cream while it’s on your plate. That’s my philosophy. ~Thornton Wilder
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
“I believe life is constantly testing us for our level of commitment, and life’s greatest rewards are reserved for those who demonstrate a never-ending commitment to act until they achieve. This level of resolve can move mountains, but it must be constant and consistent. As simplistic as this may sound, it is still the common denominator separating those who live their dreams from those who live in regret.”
Both of these are quotes by Anthony Robbins (motivational speaker) and they say so much. The first one is simple but profound. It’s almost common sense but yet most of us keep doing the same things over and over and then wonder why our lives are still in the same rut. The second quote tells us that with consistent movement and commitment to our goals, we will achieve success.
Too many times we are are looking for the get-rich-quick schemes and boy does that sound familiar to this million-in-2-years sister!
So let’s do things differently (see quote #1). Set some specific and measurable goals with me. Commit to working consistently towards your goals with me (see quote #2). Success will be just around the corner
My headline kinda rhymes
“Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.” ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr
I know we post a lot on here about not having enough time, but we really have the same 24 hours in a day that everyone else does. It really comes down to what we choose to do with those hours. My number one problem is time management complicated by procrastination. I would guess that there are some other people reading this with similar problems. I really don’t even have an excuse. I am not married; I don’t have children unless you count my 2 cats. Many times at the end of the day I wonder what the heck I did all day because it seems like my to do list grew. What really happens is that I pick the things that I want to do and the ones I don’t linger and loom on my list for days until it’s crisis time and I HAVE to get them done. What a great way to add unnecessary stress to my life, huh?
I’m trying this new technique: the pomodoro technique. Here are the instructions: Choose a task to be accomplished. Set the Pomodoro to 25 minutes (the Pomodoro is the timer). Work on the task until the Pomodoro rings, then put a check on your sheet of paper. Take a short break (5 minutes is OK) (taken from http://www.pomodorotechnique.com/). The thought is that you can convince yourself to do almost anything for 25 minutes and once you get into it, usually it’s not as bad as you think. I found a free app online to use instead of an actual kitchen timer. I am using the focus booster app found online at http://www.focusboosterapp.com/. I’ll let you know about my short-term results on Friday. Hopefully my productivity soars! Until Friday… Be kind. Please rewind. (Ha! Remember that on VHS tape rentals?)
One of my goals this year is to focus. Sometimes at the end of the day, I really wonder what I did all day. I’ve been in my office working but I don’t seem to have accomplished much. How can I correct this problem? I already have lists. That’s probably part of the problem. I have lists. Multiple lists on many pieces of paper floating around on my desk. I need to record everything on 1 list, look at it often (to keep on task) and mark things off as I COMPLETE the task. If it can’t be completed in 1 sitting, I should probably break the task into multiple tasks. I already work a lot. Every single day. I really can’t work more than I do (and be sane). I have more to do than ever and since I can’t really work more, I have to be more efficient with the work that I do. STEP 1 to solving my problem is a detailed, single list. I’ll let you know how it goes. Fingers-crossed.
On a side note, I was thinking about a title for my post and “Houston, we have a problem” popped into my head. Often I’ll say something that I’ve said practically my whole life and I’ll wonder what it really means. I did know that this phrase had something to do with space shuttles, but still I looked up the origins. It’s an interesting read that I am sharing with you. http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/houston-we-have-a-problem.html (Yeah, I know side-tracked again. SMH.)
Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly… -proverb
That’s the thing with life, you never know what is right around the corner. Our jobs are to put all the pieces in place, do the things we are supposed to, and live the best life we can. By doing all of these things, you are preparing yourself as best you can for what is around the corner.
There are those people who let life happen to them. You know them. They complain about what all is going wrong in their lives as if they have no control! Everyone and everything under the sun has done them wrong.
Then there are those who are in control of their lives. They know that they are the ones who put all the pieces in place. Not to say that bad things don’t happen but these people are prepared for the bad things.
I used to be one of those people who thought life happened to me. I still struggle sometimes to get out of that mindset. One of my biggest issues is procrastination. By putting things off and not dealing with them, I am still making a choice. I want to be in charge of my life! I hope you do too… Let’s make it happen together!
Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching? ~Dennis and Wendy Mannering
I love reading positive quotes. I’m sure you’ll see a lot of them along the way in this blog. I used to have a sheet with quotes hanging in my office. I recently move so I took the quote sheet down, but I am putting it back up. It kept me on track. Sometimes when things aren’t going exactly the way that was planned, we get a little upset. By putting things into perspective usually it’s really not that bad. Maybe you don’t have the job, clothes, food, etc. that you want but I’m sure you are making it fine. This quote really puts it into perspective: I had the blues because I had no shoes until upon the street, I met a man who had no feet. ~Ancient Persian Saying. There is always someone else who has it worse than you. Appreciate what you do have.
I’m definitely not always positive but those around me know that I am generally in a good mood. It’s absolutely about keeping the right mindset. If you are struggling, I’ll give you some tips on things I’ve done in the past. Make a gratitude list. Every day list at least 5 things that you are grateful for. Think about all the little things. In the past I’ve included different people, my bed, my toothbrush, certain foods, opportunities, etc. You could keep it on the fridge or in your journal. It might be a good thing to make it a family affair; just make everyone aware that there are no “wrong” answers on the gratitude list as long as you are being genuine. I’ve already mentioned the positive quotes. Put them around in your house – on the mirror in your bathroom, on the fridge, make a screensaver/background for the computer. Put them anywhere and everywhere you will see them. Books with positive messages are also good. I find that short 1-2 page stories work best for me. Also music. Play your favorite songs loudly. Sing along. I promise those around you would rather hear a happy, bad singer than your regular grumpy self
I encourage you to really think about your attitude. Are you pushing people away? I definitely distance myself from those with a negative attitude as much as possible because as the quote says: Attitudes are contagious. I wouldn’t want to “catch” a bad one now would I? I promise you will enjoy life SO much more if you just start today improving your attitude. Do you have any easy tips for mood/attitude boosts? Let us know!
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same. ~Francesca Reigler
If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. ~Mary Engelbreit
Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine. ~Anthony J. D’Angelo
I know I’ve discussed attitude before, but I believe if there’s any one thing you can do today to make a significant change in your life, it’s to improve your attitude. Our minds are so powerful and really direct much of our lives. Check yourself. Is your first thought about something usually negative? Do you feel like the world is out to get you? Are you generally unhappy? If so, YOU and only you have the power to change it all. Sounds simple yet unbelievable, huh? I PROMISE it works. I generally am a happy person but occasionally I go through times when it’s harder to think positively about things. When times are tough, that’s when you have to dig in. Think before you think and especially before you speak. Am I looking at this in the best way I can? Being conscious of your thoughts is the way to start this change. It may take weeks to change your thought patterns but it is possible. This will help you both personally and in business. Find inspiring quotes and put them where you can see them!
“The critical ingredient to success is getting off your butt and DOING something. It’s as simple as that. A lot of people have ideas, but there are few who decide to do something about them now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. But today. The true entrepreneur is a doer, not a dreamer.” – Nolan Bushnell.
There’s really not much else to say… it’s time to stop procrastinating (I know that’s why you’re here) and get to work