Dreams are for us all…

  • 33 years ago, I was born with a clean slate.
  • 29 years ago, my mother’s death forever altered my path.
  • 15 years ago, I graduated from high school.
  • 12 years ago, I fell head over heals for someone who I haven’t seen in years. Just the thought of him can make my heart skip a beat. As a matter of fact, it just did exactly that.
  • 8 years ago, my whole world was turned upside down with just a few “interesting” choices.
  • 6 years ago, I began working at Southern Belle and changed my world – got back to my roots a little more.
  • Last year, I made a pact with my sister to move forward in a positive way.

My life in a nutshell! Ha! I have always been a dreamer. I want things that people tell me are out of reach. I want things that I am afraid to ask for. I want things I am afraid to have. I want things I don’t even understand. I’m a dreamer.

Most people see dreams as these unattainable abstracts. When they think of dreams, they think of those vague and hazy visions we experience while asleep.

I see dreams as a hope for the future. I see dreams as a light to guide our life. If we stop dreaming, eventually we stop being. If we stop dreaming, we become something that “was”.

So, here I am today, a self professed dreamer that refuses to quit dreaming. I’m going to spend the next 2 years making those dreams come true. I’m going to spend the 2 after that dreaming new dreams; and so on and so on….



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33? Say it’s not so!

Today, I turn 33! AAAAAAAAAAAAAgh!

I’m not so sure I like this, but I guess it’s better than the alternative.

I have compiled some quotes to make me feel better about aging:

Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been.  ~Mark Twain

Age does not diminish the extreme disappointment of having a scoop of ice cream fall from the cone.  ~Jim Fiebig

A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams.  ~John Barrymore

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you were?  ~Satchel Paige

Be on the alert to recognize your prime at whatever time of your life it may occur.  ~Muriel Spark

and not that I have wrinkles, but:

There is always a lot to be thankful for, if you take the time to look. For example, I’m sitting here thinking how nice it is that wrinkles don’t hurt.  ~Author Unknown

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Loving one another begins with loving yourself…

Today is Valentine’s Day. Depending on who you talk to, it is one of the sweetest or most depressing days of the year. When I think back on past Valentine’s Days, I remember the ones I worked at my sister-in-law’s flower shop, I remember the one when I waited patiently for someone I loved to come home, just to get a FAX saying it would be 2 more weeks, I remember the one when I got fired, I remember the one when my Aunt Geary passed away, I remember the one that of one my best friends got married, and I remember the one  that 3 of my guy friends WATCHED me change 2 flat tires. I could go on and on…..

Needless to say, I don’t have a great history with Valentine’s Day. However, I can honestly say, to me, it’s just another day.

I say all of that to say, life is what you make it, and whether or not you have someone special to share this Valentine’s day with, it should be another day to celebrate life. Because, at the end of day, you should love yourself before even attempting to love someone else.

Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible – it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could.

~ Barbara de Angelis

Toodles 🙂

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New Year, New You and Me

At the beginning of each new year, it’s hard not to join everyone else in make a list of resolutions. We all want a fresh start at some time or another and I hope we all want to make some positive changes in our lives. I know I do.

Kristi and I are both try to focus on the improving quality of our lives while making/saving money. Let’s face it. We only have one life and in order to be a productive citizen in this life, we have to make some money. So let’s make the best of both worlds! Below is a short list of some of the improvements I plan to make this year.

• Consciously drink more water and less of everything else.
• Focus. Really focus on the things that are important. Don’t get caught up in the ones that aren’t. [[THIS IS A BIGGIE FOR ME! I am not at all into drama, but I do get easily distracted.]]
• Work on relationships. Call more. Send more handwritten notes and cards.
• Organized plan for my business. I have a lot of projects going on and I want to have a more organized and efficient way to get it all done (so I can spend some time enjoying life!)
• Roth IRA or some other appropriate savings plan for self-employed person.
• Overcome procrastination. This is a staple on every list. I have a severe case that I suspect is part of my DNA. Maybe this is the year that it will mutate into something more beneficial. 🙂

I do want to emphasize that these are broad goals. According to experts in some of the many self-help books I’ve read, goals need to be specific. You need to list out the steps to get there in as much detail as possible. Give yourself reasonable time to get them done and chart your progress. I will be doing this but won’t bore you with the minute details here (you’re welcome, lol).

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Moving up and on

It’s always hard to deal with loss whether it’s from a death or just physical separation. As a child, I dealt with a lot of loss through death. Also, along the way a lot of people have come and gone (but are still alive). I think that people have a time and place in our lives. Some may be around for many, many years while others may be there for just a short time. Everyone has their purpose and you probably have a lesson to learn from your experience with them whether it be positive or negative. It’s not always a bad thing that you lost touch with certain people.

Look at your current relationships. Are they healthy relationships? Do you have someone that calls you only when they want something? I know I do. So your challenge (and mine) is to look at the people you surround yourself with. Are you being lifted up or brought down by them? What can you (and I) do about negative people? Be less available? Confront them? How can you surround yourself with more positive people?

There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative. ~W. Clement Stone

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Choose Happiness

I’m sure I’ve posted on happiness before. It’s something I often talk about with those I know well. I saw a quote posted on facebook today that really got me to thinking. “If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you.” –Sister Mary Tricky.

This is another simple quote that I’m sure that I’ve read before but it really struck me today. It struck me so much that it’s now plastered on the wall in my office. We all choose how we feel every day. We choose how we react to situations whether they are good or bad or even sad. It’s so easy to blame someone else or life’s circumstances and let those things get us angry and depressed. I want to be mindful that I can make the choice to be happy no matter what goes on around me. I hope that you’ll be mindful with me. Choose happiness!

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Best laid plans of mice and men…

…often go awry. I’m pretty sure this quote is from the John Steinbeck novel. Correct me if I’m wrong.

It’s great to have a plan. I like lists and *try* to plan out my days each day. Often things pop up that I didn’t plan for and throw my schedule off course. It’s so easy to let those things throw you off course along with your schedule/plan. Make a plan; try to stick with it as much as possible, but be flexible when the inevitable arises. Because it WILL arise. Flexibility is one of the key ingredients of a good leader/manager. And don’t we all want to be good leaders and managers of our own lives?

Well it’s time to get back to work. I’ve got a busy day ahead. I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes. Enjoy your day!

My advice to you is not to inquire why or whither, but just enjoy your ice cream while it’s on your plate. That’s my philosophy. ~Thornton Wilder

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If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten

“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”

“I believe life is constantly testing us for our level of commitment, and life’s greatest rewards are reserved for those who demonstrate a never-ending commitment to act until they achieve. This level of resolve can move mountains, but it must be constant and consistent. As simplistic as this may sound, it is still the common denominator separating those who live their dreams from those who live in regret.”

Both of these are quotes by Anthony Robbins (motivational speaker) and they say so much. The first one is simple but profound. It’s almost common sense but yet most of us keep doing the same things over and over and then wonder why our lives are still in the same rut. The second quote tells us that with consistent movement and commitment to our goals, we will achieve success.

Too many times we are are looking for the get-rich-quick schemes and boy does that sound familiar to this million-in-2-years sister!

So let’s do things differently (see quote #1). Set some specific and measurable goals with me. Commit to working consistently towards your goals with me (see quote #2). Success will be just around the corner 🙂

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You’ve got as much time as Albert Einstein

My headline kinda rhymes 🙂

“Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.” ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr

I know we post a lot on here about not having enough time, but we really have the same 24 hours in a day that everyone else does. It really comes down to what we choose to do with those hours. My number one problem is time management complicated by procrastination. I would guess that there are some other people reading this with similar problems. I really don’t even have an excuse. I am not married; I don’t have children unless you count my 2 cats. Many times at the end of the day I wonder what the heck I did all day because it seems like my to do list grew. What really happens is that I pick the things that I want to do and the ones I don’t linger and loom on my list for days until it’s crisis time and I HAVE to get them done. What a great way to add unnecessary stress to my life, huh?

I’m trying this new technique: the pomodoro technique. Here are the instructions: Choose a task to be accomplished. Set the Pomodoro to 25 minutes (the Pomodoro is the timer). Work on the task until the Pomodoro rings, then put a check on your sheet of paper. Take a short break (5 minutes is OK) (taken from http://www.pomodorotechnique.com/). The thought is that you can convince yourself to do almost anything for 25 minutes and once you get into it, usually it’s not as bad as you think. I found a free app online to use instead of an actual kitchen timer. I am using the focus booster app found online at http://www.focusboosterapp.com/. I’ll let you know about my short-term results on Friday. Hopefully my productivity soars! Until Friday… Be kind. Please rewind. (Ha! Remember that on VHS tape rentals?)

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Houston, we have a problem… Focus.

One of my goals this year is to focus. Sometimes at the end of the day, I really wonder what I did all day. I’ve been in my office working but I don’t seem to have accomplished much. How can I correct this problem? I already have lists. That’s probably part of the problem. I have lists. Multiple lists on many pieces of paper floating around on my desk. I need to record everything on 1 list, look at it often (to keep on task) and mark things off as I COMPLETE the task. If it can’t be completed in 1 sitting, I should probably break the task into multiple tasks. I already work a lot. Every single day. I really can’t work more than I do (and be sane). I have more to do than ever and since I can’t really work more, I have to be more efficient with the work that I do. STEP 1 to solving my problem is a detailed, single list. I’ll let you know how it goes. Fingers-crossed.

On a side note, I was thinking about a title for my post and “Houston, we have a problem” popped into my head. Often I’ll say something that I’ve said practically my whole life and I’ll wonder what it really means. I did know that this phrase had something to do with space shuttles, but still I looked up the origins. It’s an interesting read that I am sharing with you. http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/houston-we-have-a-problem.html (Yeah, I know side-tracked again. SMH.)

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